This is not a statement of you should or shouldn’t. I hope that if you’ve followed me long enough, you know I never intend to shame any woman for her choices. This IS a statement that our culture makes it virtually impossible to successfully breastfeed. This is also a statement that if you wanted to breastfeed and tried and it didn’t work out, it’s not your fault!! Have no shame mamas! This culture DOES NOT SUPPORT BREASTFEEDING. We don’t grow up watching it happen. If we do manage to get past those difficult hurdles right after the baby is born, we’re shamed for nursing publicly. Then how do you manage it with work and all of the other responsibilities in life?
I started babysitting when I was 11 years old. My mom worked in day cares for years so I was around babies in those settings. I knew a good bit about taking care of children despite being the youngest of two by seven years. What I didn’t realize was that besides the usual physical and emotional challenges of raising kids that perfectionism would rule over all for me and be my deciding factor of how I parented for many years.